In Remembrance
28 May 2012 1 Comment
in contemporary romance reader Tags: 9-11, America, Armed Forces, author, blogiversary, Civil War, Cold War, Decoration Day, GenX, heroes, heroism, Iraq War, Jolyse Barnett, Memorial Day, Vietnam War, writer
May 31st is Jolyse Barnett’s Margarita Moments blogiversary. In appreciation of YOU, my readers, I’m giving away prizes to random commenters** each week this month. (To learn if you won for commenting last week, scroll to the bottom of this post.) So, if you haven’t yet left a comment, now’s the time to dip your toes into the blog waters. Your email isn’t made public and you can use a nickname for privacy. Winners from today’s post will be announced Wednesday, May 31st. Check back then for an extra-special Margarita Moment and final blogiversary giveaway. Enjoy, and good luck!
Simple and Delicious
This weekend has been a respite from the daily grind, relaxing by the pool with friends and family. Aside from an elusive sun, the weather’s been agreeable. Our big hit on the grill so far was the delectable bacon-wrapped scallops my sister brought to the party. I can’t wait to compare them to the shrimp recipe we’re trying out today!
All Gave Some, Some Gave All.
As much as we enjoy our Memorial Day weekend barbeques and pool parties, the meaning behind this holiday is bittersweet. Our hearts and minds remember those who have fought and died for us to have the many freedoms we savor as Americans.
Raised in a rural community during the seventies, I heard about the boys in our town, barely eighteen, drafted into service. A number of those young men never returned, their names etched into the war memorial in the center of our small town and celebrated three times a year. Those who did come home often had lasting scars, the worst of which were invisible. As a Girl Scout, I honored our veterans by placing a flag next to their graves each May and November. Little did I know we’d adopted a tradition begun by southern women after the Civil War to remember their dead.
The Cold War taught us to always be wary, and it was with great relief and optimism in 1981 when the Berlin Wall tumbled down. We no longer had to fear nuclear war with the Soviet Union. College years for me were the Big 80′s. Not only was our hair big, but our dreams too. Generation X expected the world. Like the song said, the future was so bright we had to wear sunglasses.
I was pregnant with our first child in 1990 when our country came to the brink of war again, with a “line drawn in the sand” between our president and Saddam Hussein in Iraq. I feared bringing a baby into a world of unease and heartache, and again was thankful when the brave men and women of our armed services brought the conflict to a speedy end.
Years of peace lulled many of us Americans into a false sense of security. That all changed one fateful September morning.
Never forget.
9-11 hit very close to home. We knew people who died on those planes, people who died in the towers, people who missed death by inches or seconds or last-minute change of plans. My home of Long Island fell silent. There was no air traffic and the Long Island Expressway was shut down.
I scurried out of my work building that day, anxious to be safely home with my loved ones, when a deafening roar stopped me in my tracks. Fearing the worst, I squinted into the midday sun to see silver fighter jets screaming overhead. I spied the red, white, and blue emblazoned on each, and I breathed again. I’d grown up hearing the occasional thunder of jets from the local Air Force base. They’d frightened me, but my father always reassured me they were there to protect us. Now I understood.
Have a safe, relaxing holiday with your loved ones. Celebrate on behalf of those who can’t because they’re too busy keeping us safe. I leave you with this song by Five for Fighting, one I think is perfect for Memorial Day:
What does Memorial Day mean to you?
And now for blogiversary news…Last week’s Margarita Moments prize winner is LynneRose!!!! Thanks for participating and congratulations! Email me at jolysebarnett@gmail.com with your address. An insulated personal cooler tote bag and $20 Amazon card will soon be on their way.
This week’s prize is a $25 Amazon card and a pair of Margarita glasses. Be sure to comment if you want to be entered into this drawing. 
**Commenters must provide a continental USA address if selected as prize winner. I apologize to my out-of-country readers. I love you too, and will have to figure out a cost-effective way to include you in future giveaways. Thanks for reading!
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Unofficial Start to Summer
21 May 2012 17 Comments
in Indulgences, Food & Drink, At Home Tags: Jolyse Barnett, writer, author, summer fun, recipes, raspberry martini, barbeque, Memorial Day party
May 31st is Jolyse Barnett’s Margarita Moments Blogiversary. In appreciation of YOU, my readers, I’m giving away prizes to random commenters** each week this month. (To learn if you won for commenting last week, scroll to the bottom of this post.) So, if you haven’t yet left a comment, now’s the time to dip your toes into the blog waters. Your email isn’t made public and you can use a nickname for privacy. Winners from today’s post will be announced Monday, May 28th. Be sure to also stop by on Wednesday, May 31st for an extra-special Margarita Moment and giveaway. Enjoy, and good luck!
Memorial Day Weekend 2012
The lawn is mown, the pool open, and the grill fired up. It’s time for a backyard barbeque to celebrate the return of outdoor living. If you like the blue margarita, these light cocktails may hit the sweet spot :
Malibu Twisted Pink – 1 part Malibu, 1 part cranberry juice, 1 part fresh grapefruit juice. Pour all ingredients over cubed ice into glass. Stir to mix and chill. Garnish with a twist and wedge of grapefruit.
Raspberry Martini – 2 oz. raspberry vodka, 1/2 DeKuyper Razzmatazz liquer, 1 oz. Sprite soda. Pour ingredients into a cocktail shaker. Shake well, strain into cocktail/martini glass, and serve.
Shrimp on the barbie, anyone?
Grilled burgers, sausage, chicken, and steak are tasty, but seafood is quick and delicious, too. Here’s a 30-minute grilled shrimp recipe, courtesy of www.grilling.com:
INGREDIENTS:
- 1 teaspoon minced garlic
- 8 bamboo or metal skewers
- 1 pound extra large shrimp (21-25), peeled and deveined
- 1/4 cup chopped cilantro (about half of a bunch)
- 1/4 cup extra virgin olive oil
- 1/4 cup lime juice
- 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
- 1/2 teaspoon ground black pepper
- 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
INSTRUCTIONS:
- Assemble marinade ingredients in a large ziplock storage bag, seal, and toss to mix. Add the shrimp and toss to coat. Marinate the shrimp for 30 minutes.
- If using bamboo skewers, soak them in water while the shrimp is marinating to prevent them from burning on the grill. When the shrimp are finished marinating, spear three shrimp per skewer. Discard remaining marinade.
- Grill shrimp on the outer edges of the grill heated to approximately 400°F for 2-3 minutes on the first side and 1-2 minutes on the second side. Serve on the skewer or remove shrimp from skewer and serve on a platter.
This next summer staple simple to prepare is grilled vegetables. Select whatever combination of veggies you find in the fridge. Carrots, potatoes, onions, tomatoes, and zucchini are especially good. Cut veggies into medium-sized chunks. Add whole garlic cloves. Place all in the center of heavy-duty aluminum foil. Sprinkle with olive oil, thyme, black pepper, and salt. Close the foil around the veggies and grill over medium heat until cooked to your liking.
Simple, healthy, and delicious
Still have room for dessert? Of course! Margarita Moments’ top pick for this holiday weekend is barbequed pineapple topped with vanilla ice cream.
For my readers celebrating the holiday weekend, please enjoy responsibly and remember the brave people who gave their lives for America and freedom.
And now for blogiversary news…Last week’s Margarita Moments prize winner is Muffintop Mommy!!!! Thanks for participating and congratulations! Email me at jolysebarnett@gmail.com with your address. A beach towel and $15 Amazon card will soon be on their way.
This week’s prize is an insulated personal cooler tote bag (perfect for by the pool or at the beach) and a $20 Amazon card so you can purchase that summer read!
What are your favorite summer drinks and dishes?
**Commenters must provide a continental USA address if selected as prize winner. I apologize to my out-of-country readers. I love you too, and will have to figure out a cost-effective way to include you in future giveaways. Thanks for reading!
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What Turns You On?
14 May 2012 22 Comments
in Indulgences, Romance Tags: blogiversary, giveaway, guyspeak.com, Jolyse Barnett, romance, sex, sexual attraction, Shania Twain, turn-ons, writer, www.okcupid.com
May 31st is Jolyse Barnett’s Margarita Moments Blogiversary. In appreciation of YOU, my readers, I’m giving away prizes to random commenters** each week this month. (See last week’s prize package winner at the bottom of this post.) So, if you haven’t yet left a comment, now’s the time to dip your toes into the blog waters. Your email isn’t made public and you can use a nickname for privacy. Winners from today’s post will be announced Monday, May 21st. Enjoy, and good luck!
I was driving home from work Friday afternoon, enjoying my sweet escape when classic Shania Twain played on my car stereo:
As I sang along, I thought about what turns on one person may easily turn off another. For me, like in the lyrics for That Don’t Impress Me Much, it’s all about the touch. Intelligence, confidence, and sense of humor rate right up there, too, but I’ve always been a sucker for large, capable hands.
But enough about me.
The first move
According to Men’s Health magazine, the top three turn-ons for heterosexual women are:
- His skin – soft to the touch but with a rugged appearance; tan but healthy
- His smile – clean, unstained teeth
- His scent – a light, musky/spicy cologne preferred
Sounds so clinical, doesn’t it? This article goes a step further and explores the nuances of attraction in established relationships. Many women report they prefer little loving gestures, such as pitching in with the dishes or enjoying coffee together at sunrise, rather than traditional romantic expressions like flowers and cards. Others mention a guy’s ability to apologize when he’s wrong and a man who is unafraid to reveal his inner little boy. This last one makes me smile. I adore when my man acts silly for sheer, innocent fun.
If you surfed onto this blog post hoping to view a little man candy, I’d hate to disappoint. Click here for a funny, sexy “What Type of Man Turns You On” test. I took the test (for research purposes only, of course) and learned I like refined action movie guys.
She invites you into the shower
To be fair to my male readers, here’s an excerpt from GuySpeak blog about what many heterosexual men say is important in a woman:
- She’s confident
- She stands up for her friends
- She’s willing to cook, even if she’s not good at it
- She cheers him up when he’s feeling down
- She loves long, slow kisses
- She sleeps naked
- She loves to laugh
- She rides the roller coaster
I LOVE that last one. Interesting how many of the traits are similar for both sexes. Maybe we’re not so different after all.
Curious minds want to know. What turns you on?
Congratulations to Jennifer Brown, this week’s winner of the blogiversary prize package. We’re low-tech here. My husband picked your name out of a hat–literally. See how easy that was! Please email me at jolysebarnett@gmail.com with your address, and your pool safe wine glasses, festive kitchen towels, and $10 Amazon Gift Card will soon be on their way! Enjoy your Margarita Moment.
This week’s prize is a colorful beach towel and a $15 Amazon Gift Card. Be sure to comment if you want to be included in the random drawing.
**Commenters must provide a continental USA address if selected as the prize winner. I apologize to my out-of-country readers. I love you too, and will have to figure out a cost-effective way to include you in future giveaways. Thanks for reading.
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The Roller Coaster or Merry-Go-Round?
07 May 2012 21 Comments
in Indulgences, Parenting, Travel Tags: author, autism, blogiversary, children, family fun, family traditions, giveaway, humor, Jolyse Barnett, kids, Parenthood, parenting, roller coaster, special needs, writer
May 31st is Jolyse Barnett’s Margarita Moments Blogiversary. In appreciation of YOU, my readers, I’m giving away prizes to random commenters** each week this month. (See this week’s prize package below.) So, if you haven’t yet left a comment, now’s the time to dip your toes into the blog waters. Your email isn’t made public and you can use a nickname for privacy. Winners from today’s post will be announced Monday, May 14th. Enjoy, and good luck!
Prior to having kids, my husband and I watched a movie called Parenthood. This 1989 film produced by Ron Howard was billed as a comedy, yet portrayed the reality of family life as well as any drama I’ve ever seen.
Which brings me to today’s Moment.
One of the four parenting stories features a middle-aged father named Gil, played by Steve Martin. Gil has a difficult relationship with his own father, so he strives to be Super Dad to his three kids. However, when his oldest son’s erratic behavior threatens to change his school placement to special ed classes, Gil is frantic. Add to that his wife’s unplanned fourth pregnancy and work pressures, the guy is out of his mind with worry. Here are my favorite clips from the movie, when Grandma shares her words of wisdom and Gil finally gets their meaning:
In case you can’t access the video or want the short version…
[Gil has been complaining about his complicated life; Grandma wanders into the room] Grandma: You know, when I was nineteen, Grandpa took me on a roller coaster. Gil: Oh? Grandma: Up, down, up, down. Oh, what a ride! Gil: What a great story. Grandma: I always wanted to go again. You know, it was just so interesting to me that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited, and so thrilled all together! Some didn’t like it. They went on the merry-go-round. That just goes around. Nothing. I like the roller coaster. You get more out of it.
Courtesy www.familytravelfun.com
I like the merry-go-round. It’s pleasant, safe, and predictable. When our daughter was little, we’d take her on the one at Disney’s Magic Kingdom and she would smile and wave each time she passed by. Life was good. Life was simple.
Routine is our merry-go-round. We get up, send the kids off to school, do our work, the kids return home for dinner, we help with homework, watch tv, and go to bed. Then we do it all over again the next day. I enjoy routine; I like doing laundry and keeping to a schedule. Our son, being on the autism spectrum, craves routine–although it often constrains him (and us).
There’s something to be said for breaking out of the ordinary and taking a risk. It keeps us fresh, ready for anything life swings at us. It clears the cobwebs from our brains and exercises our imagination.
Our son’s first roller coaster ride!
Our daughter graduated from the merry-go-round and was a roller coaster pro by the time her brother was born.
Life for my family changed drastically with his autism diagnosis. Five years and hundreds of ABA therapy hours later, we took a family outing to an amusement park. This was a big deal, driving hours away from home and everything familiar. We had prepared our son with photos and talks about what to expect at Sesame Place, and he knew he was going to see Elmo, his favorite character, but it could go either way. New experiences often triggered extreme anxiety for him and tantrums could ensue. Luckily, the morning at the park was a huge success. He enjoyed it all–the water rides, the characters, the shows, the food, and the shops.
Then we saw the kiddie roller coaster. How I wanted my son to share our love of thrill rides! Should we push our luck? Heck, yeah. How would we know if he liked it if we never tried? We waited with bated breath to learn if our second-born would relish or fear what the rest of us in the family adored.
Whee!
By the second dip of the tiny coaster, his eyes lit up and he wore a grin the size of his face.
Since that magical day, we’ve enjoyed the mega coasters at Great Adventure in New Jersey and those at Disney World and Universal as a family. We even brave the Tower of Terror at MGM Disney in Orlando on occasion.
I’ve witnessed a positive change in our son after each of these adventures. He becomes more emotionally connected and animated afterwards, the results lasting weeks or months. Other parents of children on the ASD spectrum have noted similar responses from their kids, including gains in language and learning after trips to places such as Disney.
Like Gil in Parenthood, I’ve learned life has a way of shaking us silly with its unexpected twists and turns. We can learn to hold on, savor the wind as it whips through our hair, and dare to try as we plunge into the next adventure. We can choose to keep with the status quo and get satisfaction out of the little things. Or maybe, just maybe, we can embrace both, being responsible when necessary, unbridled when possible in order to grow–whether as parents or individuals. What do you think?
Do you prefer the merry-go-round or roller coaster?
Do you think it’s possible the excitement of roller coasters and other thrill rides may trigger positive changes in brain activity for children on the autism spectrum, or that other factors may be responsible for this phenomenon?
This week’s prize package
**Commenters must provide a continental USA address if selected as the prize winner. I’m sorry, my out-of-country readers. I love you too, and will have to figure out a cost-effective way to include you in future giveaways. Thanks for reading.
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Scrap Your Memories & Blogiversary Giveaways
30 Apr 2012 9 Comments
in At Home, Indulgences, Travel Tags: author, autism, blogiversary, digital scrapbooking, Disney Photo Pass, family, family history, giveaway, Jolyse Barnett, journaling, memories, photography, scrapbooking, scrapbooks, Shutterfly, Snapfish, special needs, writer
A sampling of my scrapbook collection
Long before I began writing seriously, I kept journals–reams of pages filled with daily entries, jots, sketches, and reflections. Then, I began scrapbooking in the mid nineties to record my family life and move my photos from boxes to books. This hobby gave my creativity an outlet my day job previously had but no longer did.
I love this book! Great ideas for the novice scrapper.
As with most things in life, there were negatives to my new obsession. Every material and specialty tool cost money, which added up. Between the price of the photos, books, filler pages, and specialty materials such as stickers, pens, scissors and other tools–not to mention my labor–one project could easily top fifty bucks.
Homemade Scrapbook Page
Then, there was the mess. I didn’t have a designated space for my hobby and ended up filling my closet and kitchen cabinets with the supplies.
Scrapping is painstaking, yet rewarding.
Durability was my greatest concern. Others were eager to look at the photo albums, but I was forever worrying about torn and soiled pages. That bothered me, because the reason I’d started scrapping was to make our family photos accessible. These albums help develop my son’s language and social connections, too, areas of concern for a child with autism.
Disney books are magical to create.
The solution to my dilemma was the advent of digital scrapbooks. Not only is this form of scrapbooking quicker and more professional-looking than my best handmade efforts, but all the work is online instead of all over my house. It’s also easy to make duplicate books. The price of both kinds of scrapbooks is comparable, unless you splurge by creating an album like the Disney one I made two years ago.
My photo albums are more like picture books.
Photo sites such as Shutterfly and Snapfish are user-friendly and provide many options to create the book you imagine. They take up a fraction of the space at 1/2″ thick whereas the handmade scrapbooks are 2″-3″ thick. You can share digital albums online, so there’s no need to purchase every album you create.
With each successive album, I used fewer photos and more journaling until the photos supported the text rather than the other way around. Maybe I shouldn’t be surprised I took that next step in creativity–painting pictures with words as a novelist.
What’s your creative outlet? Do you scrapbook, journal, or research geneology online?
Let’s celebrate!
May 31st is Jolyse Barnett’s Margarita Moments Blogiversary. In appreciation of YOU, my readers, I’m giving away prizes to random commenters each week of May. So, if you haven’t yet left a comment, now’s the time to dip your toes into the blog waters. (Your email isn’t made public and you can use a nickname for privacy.) Winners will be announced in the following week’s post. To be sure you don’t miss this opportunity, sign up for email notification and Margarita Moments will arrive at your inbox hassle-free.
First week's prize includes these pool-safe beverage glasses, hand towels, and a $10 Amazon Gift Card
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A Dinner and Romance, Key West Style
23 Apr 2012 17 Comments
in Food & Drink, Indulgences, Key West, Romance Tags: author, Cafe Marquesa, Cafe Sole, Flaming Buoy, food, Gale Wins Yacht Charter, Hot Tin Roof, Jolyse Barnett, Key West restaurants, Key West sunset, Latitudes, Michaels, restaurant, romantic dinner, sunset dinner, writer
You’ve booked your flight and rooms and are on your way to Key West with your sweetheart. Now for those little details, like choosing just the right restaurant for romance-filled evenings. With dining options galore in the Conch Republic, confusion may ensue. Relax. Let Margarita Moments narrow the choices for you.
- Michaels – Known for its steak and seafood, this restaurant is a sure bet when it comes to quality cuisine and impeccable service. You may want to dine outdoors in their garden oasis. Michaels’ drink selection is impressive, including a variety of wines and martinis. I suggest the White Chocolate Martini made with Stoli Vanil Vodka & White Creme de Cacao, served in a Belgian chocolate rimmed glass. If you’re interested in one of their delicious fondue appetizers, be sure to order your selection immediately, as it takes 20-25 minutes to prepare. Entree servings are a healthy size, but leave room for dessert. I’d recommend sharing a warm chocolate volcano. Mmm.
- The Flaming Buoy - A twilight dinner for two on this up-and-coming restaurant’s cozy side porch may set the mood for romance. The waitstaff is friendly yet unobtrusive. You won’t feel rushed as you may at some eateries, and the food is all about taste and comfort. I highly recommend the lobster mac and cheese. Click on the restaurant name above for my unabridged review.
- Latitudes - This restaurant isn’t in Old Town like the others listed here, but is easily accessible via a complimentary ten-minute ferry ride to Sunset Key. I haven’t eaten here yet. There are so many wonderful choices in Key West, and this Westin Resort restaurant is a bit on the pricey side. Many reviewers say eating alfresco on Latitude’s quiet beach at sunset is worth every penny, though, and I imagine it is.
- Hot Tin Roof - This restaurant is part of the sophisticated Ocean Key Resort overlooking Key West Harbor, the perfect backdrop for a romantic dinner. You may select small plates or opt for a heartier entree. Click here to see the menu. We’ve never been disappointed with its service or ambiance.
- nine one five – Located at, you guessed it, 915 Duval Street, this is a tapis restaurant. Request a table for two on the building’s front porch, and you’ll be able to people watch while whispering sweet nothings to your love between servings. If you like chocolate, you may wish to make Life by Chocolate your meal’s final act.
- Cafe Sole - Boasting French cuisine and intimate indoor or alfresco seating, this award-winning establishment is recommended by Key West aficionados and foodies across the internet. I haven’t eaten here before, but now it’s on my list!
- Cafe Marquesa - This historied restaurant is affiliated with Marquesa Hotel, lodging designed for the discerning traveler. We’ve biked and strolled past it many times, and look forward to one day sitting inside as patrons. We hear the food is as incredible as the hotel’s reputation.
- Charter boat — For the ultimate in intimate, rent a private yacht for a dinner sunset sail around Key West harbor. What a beautiful ending to a romantic getaway!
Entree at Michaels
Wherever you decide to dine, may you eat and drink in good health and happiness. Bon appetit!
What’s the most romantic restaurant you’ve enjoyed or wish to experience?
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First Impressions
18 Apr 2012 10 Comments
in contemporary romance reader, Writing Tags: author, contemporary romance, Jolyse Barnett, Maroon 5, Sonia G Medeiros, writer, writing
Courtesy magtrends.com
Remember when you were a kid and you loved to play pretend? This week’s Margarita Moment is a chance to recapture that imagination of yours.
Use any of my first three novels’ opening lines, or think of your own story starter, and have fun daydreaming. Ask yourself “What if?” and see where the ideas flow.
Ready or not, here we go…
A Daughter’s Final Promise – Contemporary Romance
First Impression: Kathryn knew better than to drink three glasses of champagne. She told herself she was obligated to have one during the toast. As for the second, she drank that in mock celebration of her status as single-older-sister-of-the-bride. She was fuzzy as to why she downed the third, but she strongly suspected it had something to do with having consumed the first two. It couldn’t have anything to do with her attraction to Joanna’s new brother-in-law, Jacob. Or, the fact he was slow dancing with another woman while she sat here in the corner, fiddling with her empty champagne glass.
When Dreams Collide – Contemporary Romance
First Impression: Nicki Donnatto glanced up from her carefully prepared notes and smiled at the friendly faces in the audience. “And these are the reasons I request rezoning approval and a building permit.” She turned to the five board members seated to her left. “Thank you for your consideration.”
Uncharted Waters (Working Title) – Contemporary Romance
First Impression: Damn his buddy, Dillon, for wanting to see some new performer at a Duval Street bar Saturday. Sure, the guy turned out to be a kickass musician, and he was funny as hell. All the tourists had laughed, their vacation dollars tucked into his tip jar. But that was beside the point. If they’d hung out at the Green Parrot instead of that tourist trap, he wouldn’t be in this mess. He couldn’t get her out of his head.
Speaking of story lines, the ending of A Daughter’s Final Promise was inspired by one of my favorite songs. Kathryn decides to take another chance on love, her relationship with Jacob different than others in the past because it’s one based on trust and tempered with compromise. Take a listen to this Maroon 5 video She Will Be Loved:
Fellow writers: This post was the brainchild of the talented and sweet Sonia G Medeiros’ April-May Writing Challenge. If you’d like to participate, click the link for more details. I’d love to see your entry!
Margarita Lovers: What’s your favorite first line or last words of a book, play, or movie? OR What inspires you?
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Waxing Poetic
17 Apr 2012 20 Comments
in Indulgences, Travel, Writing Tags: escape, Jolyse Barnett, OnlyPoems.com, poem, poetry, poetry month, tropical escape, writer, writing
April is one of my favorite months. Spring is in full bloom, Long Island days seem slightly sunnier…and it’s poetry month. To put you in the poem frame of mind, here’s a haiku I wrote, just for you.
Poetry
Sensory snapshot in words
Lines, rhymes, alliteration, stanzas
Rhythm rolling off my tongue
When I’m in the mood for a little poetry pick-me-up but don’t have the energy left to write my own, I surf on poetry websites. The next poem is courtesy of www.OnlyPoems.com.:
Tropical Island
Palm trees sway
To the beat of the drums
As my plane lands
My Caribbean escape awaits
I dip my feet
Into the refreshing warm water
The ocean sweeps me away
To my personal paradise
Flashes of color
Shimmering scales
Crystal blue water
A blissful sight
The burning red sun
Battles the soft ocean breeze
My toes dig deeper into the sand
I don’t want to leave
The reef is a playground
To all curious creatures
And the seaweed rocks back and forth
To the rhythm of the water
But sunset comes
In shades of orange, yellow, and pink
As it settles to rest
Sinking beneath the ocean waves
by Peyton Alexis
Do you like poetry? Why or why not? If you like poetry, do you have any favorite poets or related websites you’d recommend?
P.S. – If you’re not into poetry, no worries. Next week’s post will be written in prose.
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A Love Story
09 Apr 2012 22 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: A Lot Like Love, Amanda Peet, Ashton Kutcher, author, Jolyse Barnett, love story, Michael Buble, romance, true love, wedding anniversary, writer
Wedding Day
Twenty-four years ago today, I married my true love and best friend. But our love story began long before April 9, 1988.
At fifteen, I was tall, lanky, studious, and shy compared to most girls my age, yet eager to fit in despite lacking social graces. I survived adolescent crushes and ventured into dating. None of those boys, however, made me swoon like the heroes in my favorite novels. Night after night, I’d gaze into the starry darkness from my bedroom window, dreaming of the perfect romance.
The Michael Buble song, I Just Haven’t Met You Yet, reminds me of that yearning optimism I had as a teen.
I met my future husband autumn of ’83. He was a very confident, handsome guy with a great sense of humor, a potent combination as far as I was concerned. We hung in the same circles and kept bumping into each other, although I focused on my studies and dating guys I felt were more in my league. My future husband and I had a playful, friendly relationship, but it didn’t go any further than that.
Until months later, he stole a kiss. I began to suspect he was the one, but I didn’t want to believe it. At that point I had a love interest back home and figured he did too.
Sophomore year of college, he’d walk me home Saturday nights whenever my roommate wasn’t available. I began to share my accomplishments and sorrows with him. He offered emotional support after my breakup with a boy back home. We talked about our childhoods, our aspirations, our religious beliefs, just about everything. We’d become best friends.
Then he ruined everything by asking me out on a date. I had to refuse. What if things didn’t work out? Luckily for our love story, he wasn’t easily dissuaded. He brought me flowers. He asked me to a movie. He courted me.
And we lived happily ever after.
Well, not so fast. Our road to marriage was a bumpy one at times, both of us having grown into strong-minded, focused young adults, intent on making our way in the world while trying to figure out how to fit our lives together. The 2005 movie A Lot Like Love, starring Ashton Kutcher and Amanda Peet, reminds me a bit of our real-life romance:
As we’ve wound our ways through the years,
we’ve lived our marriage vows,
loving each other
for better for worse,
in good times and in bad,
through sickness and health.
Twenty seven years after our first date, we’re still best friends, and we’re still crazy in love with each other. Happy anniversary, sweetheart.
That’s our love story. What’s yours?
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Hemingway’s Key West Years 1928 – 1939
06 Apr 2012 16 Comments
in Indulgences, Key West, Writing Tags: American writers, author, Blue Heaven, Capt Tony's Saloon, Ernest Hemingway, Farewell to Arms, Jolyse Barnett, Key West, Sloppy Joes, The Old Man and The Sea
Hemingway lived his dreams, as shown by this grade school assignment. ( KW Museum) Click for a larger view.
Thank you for your patience. The more I researched about this larger-than-life man, the more contradictions I encountered. The Hemingway Resource Center website suggests, ”To find the truth about Hemingway, look first to his fiction.”
I did just that, along with gathering information from the Key West Museum, chatting with Key West historians, and poring through published biographies and online sources. If you find Hemingway a fascinating figure, too, you may wish to read his work and research to draw your own conclusions.
Ernest Miller Hemingway was an accomplished writer by the time he and his second wife arrived in Key West. John Dos Passos, his friend at the time, had recommended they stop there for a holiday on their return from Paris in April 1928.
Like many tourists to the tiny island, Ernest and Pauline were instant converts and determined to settle there. Perhaps it reminded them of the foreign lands they loved, while still part of the United States, situated as it is on the southernmost tip of Florida’s westward archipelago. After three years of renting apartments, the couple purchased a house in Old Town with money loaned by Pauline’s uncle.
907 Whitehead Street
Hemingway wrote the final draft of his bestselling A Farewell to Arms at their new home on 907 Whitehead Street, rising early each morning to write. He also published works such as Death in the Afternoon, Green Hills of Africa, and two of his most beloved short stories, “The Short Happy Life of Francis Macomber” and “The Snows of Kilimanjaro” during his Key West years. As for his family life, Pauline gave birth to two sons during this time, and outfitted their property with a luxurious 20′ x 60′ pool, carved out of the island’s coral bedrock for $20,000 in 1938.
At home by the pool (Courtesy Hemingway House)
When the midday tropical sun drove him away from his writing, Hemingway gravitated toward the water or his favorite watering hole. Whether his time away from home was a consequence or cause of an unhappy marriage, only Pauline and he would know for sure. Whatever the case, Papa Hemingway as the macho persona developed during this decade.
On land, Papa continued his lifelong enjoyment of boxing. The backyard of a brothel in Bahama Village constructed a boxing ring where he spent many happy hours. This site is now home to the popular Blue Heaven restaurant. According to R. Andrew Wilson’s Write Like Hemingway, Papa “was known to exaggerate his own experience in the ring,” athough Key West historians assure me he did spar with locals and won quite often.
He enjoyed his drink as much as the next man, spotted at Sloppy Joe’s most afternoons. The original Sloppy Joes was located on 428 Greene Street and has been renamed Capt. Tony’s Saloon. (The current Sloppy Joe’s bar at the corner of lower Duval and Greene came to be when the owner refused to pay a rent increase at the former site and relocated in 1937.) Joe “Josie” Russell, the bar’s owner, is said to have cashed a $1,000 royalty check for Hemingway when all the banks refused, earning him a close friendship with the writer.
"Tag and Release. Not!"
Papa was an avid fisherman, the photos of him throughout present-day Key West establishments an apparent testament to his prowess. The picture to the right can be seen at the Turtle Kraals Bar & Restaurant. For his extended fishing trips to Havana, Papa would charter Josie Russell’s boat. Fans of Hemingway’s final novel, The Old Man and the Sea, may be interested to learn that the character, Santiago, was inspired by Papa’s Cuban mate, Carlos Gutierrez. According to Hemingway’s personal accounts, this mate had fished marlin for forty years and was a gifted storyteller. Photos, including one of Carlos Gutierrez with Papa, can be viewed here.
Why did Papa ultimately leave Key West?
At some point in his island adventures, Hemingway met journalist Martha Gellhorn, his future third wife. As with Pauline while still married to Hadley, he had an affair with Martha before divorcing Pauline in 1940. In addition, his last book written in Key West, To Have and Have Not, was considered by many critics to be second-rate. Some say he moved on with a new wife to a new life for a rebirth of his career. Although he owned the house until his death in 1961, Ernest Miller Hemingway’s life in Key West ended in 1939.
Was Hemingway an example of art imitating life, or life imitating art? Or were both so intertwined it’s impossible to separate the legend from the writer?
What are your thoughts about Hemingway, either as a historical figure or American writer?
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Tagged, I’m It! About This Author…
31 Mar 2012 22 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: author, Eloisa James, fun facts, Jolyse Barnett, Kathleen E. Woodiwiss, Key West, Papa Hemingway, Photo overlooking Duval Street, steel drums, writer
I’ve been tagged by romance author Jan Romes to answer the following questions, so here goes:
1.) What is the one book you couldn’t live without?
The HOLY BIBLE is my life’s anchor. Another book that’s had a powerful influence on my attitude and approach to daily obstacles is Rick Warren’s THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE. My husband, daughter and I read the book a number of years ago as a family.
2.) What can you see out your window at the moment?
I glimpse through the curtains a few bare-limbed trees silhouetted by an evening sky of grays and blues. As pretty as that is, I’d prefer the view that’s shown on your left.
3.) What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?
When I was little, my father often dared me to eat things like frog legs and pigs feet. I didn’t try either of those Adirondack delicacies, but I did brave eating chicken heart. (It was actually pretty good.)
4.) What fictional character would you most like to marry?
My interest in real men grew, in part, from my love of Kathleen Woodiwiss’ hero, Ruark Beauchamp. If you haven’t read SHANNA, first released in 1977, it’s worth a look. I adore Woodiwiss’ setting description, her flawed yet redeemable characters, and believable suspense woven into steamy historical romance.
Ruark and Shanna Beauchamp
5.) If ever a fictional villain was going to win, who would you want it to be?
I’m rather intrigued by Mr. Gold/Rumplestiltskin, as portrayed on ABC’s new show, Once Upon a Time. I feel for the guy, a man bullied all his life who then lost everything he loved. He had the opportunity to gain power and, in turn, revenge. I especially like that he abhors the Evil Queen as much as any of the morally upright characters in the tale.
6.) How many types of cheese can you name off the top of your head?
*Sniff* This makes me wistful, as I had to give up dairy products about two months ago. I can name at least a dozen off the top of my head. My favorites, should I ever be fortunate enough to have them pass my lips again, are cheddar, provolone, mozzarella, ricotta, and Yarlsberg Swiss.
7.) If you didn’t want to be a writer, what would you be?
I’d be an artist, although I can only draw objects or scenes I can see. I’m not skilled at drawing from imagination or memory.
8.) Can you play a musical instrument?
I play alto sax passably well and dabble in piano, flute, and clarinet. I’d like to learn how to play the steel drums like the two women in this video:
Isn’t Caribbean music beautiful!
9.) Do you own a Kindle or any sort of e-reader?
I have a Kindle Fire, and I plan to buy a Kindle Touch for summer use.
10.) If so, how many books do you have on it?
I’ve purchased a handful so far. Jan Romes’ terrific romantic comedy, ONE SMALL FIB, is one of them!
11.) You just got published. In a glowing review, someone calls you the next (insert name of famous author). Which author has to watch their back now you’re on the scene?
Hmm. I think there’s plenty of room for all types of writers and books, but I’d love to be compared as a contemporary romance author version of historical romance author Eloisa James. I’m a huge fan of her descriptions, emotion, and intelligent wit. I met her at last year’s RWA conference in New York City, and was even more impressed by her friendly manner and classy style.
Now I’m tagging the following bloggers with the challenge to answer the same questions. Hope you’re game!
Please visit again soon, as my homage to Papa Hemingway’s early years will be posted Monday Friday. Until then, may you spend time doing what you love!
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True Love, The Most Magical Potion
26 Mar 2012 11 Comments
in At Home, contemporary romance reader, Indulgences Tags: author, fairy tales, Jolyse Barnett, Once Upon a Time, romance, true love, tv, writer
When I first wrote about Once Upon A Time a few months ago, I had such high hopes for this tv series.
I’m thrilled to report that, seven episodes later, I have enjoyed every one, from the story of Jiminy Cricket, to Hansel and Gretel, to the paranormal Little Red Riding Hood.
Robert Carlisle as Mr. Gold
Subtle clues are woven into each episode about a variety of fairy tale characters’ lives and the overall story arc built around Snow White vs. The Evil Queen. As detestable as Rumplestilskin/Mr. Gold can be, he’s one of the most fascinating characters, a credit to Robert Carlisle and the show’s quality writing.
Exciting, too, is the arrival of a writer to Storybrooke, the only person other than Emma’s son to believe a book of fairy tales may be more than a bunch of stories. Perhaps that writer will turn out to be her love interest. Emma has been through so much in her life. Doesn’t she deserve a fairy tale ending?
With the March 18th episode, we’re drawn back into the central drama of Mary Margaret (Snow White) and David (Prince Charming), after David’s so-called wife Catherine has gone missing. Of course, the audience knows Mayor Regina (The Evil Queen) is behind Catherine’s disappearance, and that’s confirmed with the gruesome discovery of Catherine’s heart in a box. Yes, the Evil Queen has quite the MO. Anyway, Mary Margaret is framed for Catherine’s murder, and the only one who believes in her innocence is Emma, the sheriff who has no choice but to charge and arrest her friend.
Yes, you read that last sentence correctly.
Emma is the only one who still believes Mary Margaret is innocent. That’s because, in true fantasy-soap opera fashion, David attempts to learn from his memory lapses by undergoing hypnosis. Sadly, he misinprets his memory and, in one of his most uncharming moments to date, questions Mary Margaret about her role in Catherine’s disappearance. Here’s the heartwrenching exchange:
Every week this show treats the viewer to more memorable lines. The HEART OF DARKNESS episode is no exception:
“Revenge is not the answer. It will turn you into something darker than you can imagine.” (Jiminy Cricket to a vengeful, desperate Snow White)
“Everyone has a dark side. Evil doesn’t always look evil, sometimes it’s staring you right in the face and you don’t even know it.” (Regina, aka The Evil Queen, to David when he says Mary Margaret couldn’t hurt anyone)
“Evil isn’t born, evil is made.” (Mr. Gold to Prince Charming)
“It’s the only thing I broke that I can replace. All I can say is ‘I’m sorry.’” (Snow White’s apology to the Seven Dwarfs)
“No potion can bring back love. Love is the most magical potion of all. If you can bottle love, you can do anything.” (Rumplestiltskin gets the best lines!)
The scene that includes the last line shared here gives you a glimpse into Mr. Gold’s investment. He often refers to it when speaking with Emma, Mary Margaret, and David. If for no other reason, enjoy Carlisle’s acting:
What are some of your favorite tv show or movie lines?
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Mommy Porn?
19 Mar 2012 17 Comments
in At Home, contemporary romance reader, Indulgences Tags: 50 Shades of Grey, author, contemporary romance, E.L. James, ebook, Jolyse Barnett, Kindle, Mommy Porn, NY Times Bestseller, writer
A week ago, a coworker of mine was gushing about a romance she’d read. In fact, she was so enthusiastic about this story she admitted she’d even managed to read it while blow drying her hair that morning before work.
Now that’s a good read.
I’d long forgotten about that tidbit of conversation when the same coworker approached me and mentioned the book again. She insisted I HAD to read it. This time, I stopped work long enough to hear the title: 50 Shades of Grey.
By Friday, three more coworkers had recommended the same book to me. Turns out it’s the debut novel in a trilogy by UK author, EL James. My curiosity kicked in. People don’t usually get this riled up about a good book. They didn’t tire of talking about this one, though, saying what an incredible escape from reality this story was, and that the character, Christian Grey, was truly unforgettable.
A total escape from worries? Unforgettable. Now that’s a MUST read.
Over the weekend, I was swamped with dayjob work but took a few moments out to check the Kindle price for the book. It’s $9.99. Wow. That seems a steep price for an ebook that was once free on fanfiction’s site. But word of mouth has sucked me in and I can’t resist. I’ll purchase it as soon as I have pleasure reading time later this week.
In the meantime, I researched a bit more about this hot commodity (Movie rights are already in the works.) to whet my appetite and to determine what all the fuss is about. According to a British newspaper, 50 Shades of Grey has been dubbed as Mommy Porn, a romance/erotica. It’s also being marketed as Twilight for adults. Okay, that’s intriguing. However, the most fascinating aspect of this book going viral may be that the ebook revolution has freed women to read whatever they choose. According to Forbes, so-called Mommy Porn may be the next “big thing” in literature. Double wow.
What do you think?
Have you read 50 Shades of Grey? What’s your take on the media labelling of this book? Is this a new genre or just a new name for the smut many women readers have always enjoyed? Do you feel more freedom purchasing racier books with the privacy and anonymity ebook readers provide?
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Exploring the Eastern Caribbean
12 Mar 2012 6 Comments
in Indulgences, Travel Tags: author, Bahamas, contemporary romance, cruise, cruising, Eastern Caribbean, Jolyse Barnett, RCL Explorer, St. Maarten, St. Martin, St. Thomas, writer
Explore \eks-plore\ v. 1. to investigate, study, or analyze: look into 2. to travel over (new territory) for adventure or discovery.
RCL Explorer docked at St. Thomas
As much as my husband and I enjoy Key West, we have a soft spot in our hearts for the Eastern Caribbean islands, each of them gems in their own right. In 2003, We were fortunate enough to explore Puerto Rico, St. Maarten, St. Thomas, and the Bahamas on a seven-day cruise…
Our first stop is San Juan. We opt to kayak the San Spiritu River, a calm river northeast of Puerto Rico’s capital city. Chattering monkeys and squawking parrots greet our small tour group as we paddle along, surrounded by the greenery of El Yunque Rainforest. I spy two manatee in the water and an iguana in the trees. What a wonderful start to our Eastern Caribbean experience!
Whimsical water feature outside a shop
St. Maarten/St. Martin is our next destination. It’s a unique island, ruled on one side by the Dutch and the other by the French.
We shop on the Dutch side, grabbing incredible bargains on cameras, linens, and rainbow topaz jewelry. The Belgian chocolate is delicious. Don’t plan to bring any home with you, though. It’s not a good traveler.
On the French side, there are beautiful beaches (including a nude beach if you’re so inclined). We visit a butterfly farm, where I get my first glimpse at the elusive blue morpho butterfly.
My lamb isn't too baa-d, is it?
Days at sea gives us an opportunity to explore the ship. We play mini golf, learn how to make towel animals, make friends with our dinner mates, and take in the nightly shows. There’s so much to do, but we spend part of each day simply sipping a cool drink and taking in the stunning Caribbean views from our comfy spot in the Solarium hot tub or pool.
St. Thomas is another port. We venture out on our own today, the taxi ride through the hills to Magen’s Bay Beach a bit like a roller coaster ride without the safety of the rails! We arrive early, so the beach isn’t crowded. I soak in the crystal blue water. It’s heavenly.
Magen's Bay Beach, St. Thomas
We leave the beach before I turn too pink, travel down the windy road into town, and then take a tram up to Paradise Point, St. Thomas’ lookout point. The blues of the Caribbean mix with the vibrant tropical flowers and trees. Everything is lush and beautiful.
Leaving St. Thomas
For our last day of sun, sand, and water, we join a friendly group on a booze cruise to Pearl Island away from the busy commercialism of Nassau. We enjoy a spicy lunch and rum drinks as we wade in the warm waters. Later, we explore the island’s tiny lighthouse and look at the seashells. The boat trip back to the ship includes music and dancing, and puts us in the mood for a fun last night at sea before returning to reality.
I enjoy our getaways to Key West, never tiring of its natural beauty and its people, but cruising is a wonderful way to learn which destinations may hold promise of an extended holiday to suit your needs. I’d definitely like to visit St. Thomas again, perhaps while vacationing in nearby St. John–secluded and romantic.
Oops, gotta go! I hear the blender whirring and steel drums playing in the kitchen. Time for a margarita moment or two. Until next time…
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On a Serious Note
06 Mar 2012 33 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: author, blessings, career, family, job, Jolyse Barnett, security, unconditional love, unemployment, writer
Like many writers, I have a dayjob. I’m fortunate. I’ve had a rewarding career for the past twenty years and recently ventured into my second as romance author. The fluctuating economy has affected many of my friends and family, but until now, I’ve been personally unscathed aside from a layoff early on.
That all changed on Friday at work, the bubble around me having burst upon the realization my position is as vulnerable as any in my community. It threw me. On the commute home, I imagined all sorts of outcomes to the news I could ultimately be terminated based on data outside my direct control. I imagined losing our house, my friends, my security. How would we live on Long Island on one salary until my writing is profitable? Even more worrisome, what would happen to our son if we didn’t have enough savings left for him after we’re gone?
I sank onto my bed that evening, struggling to wrap my head around the eye-opening events of the day. Before I knew it, my husband had sought me out and hugged me close. Our two children followed suit, cuddling around us. The blanket of love calmed my mind like no libation ever could. Gazing at my family I realized everything I ever needed in life was right here, on this queen-sized bed. Fear retreated, vanquished by my family’s support. I’m thankful to have a great dayjob (for the time being) and a promising future in writing.
Another perspective
What if my worst fears about my dayjob came true and I had to move on to something new? We wouldn’t be “tied” to Long Island, allowing us the option to move anywhere we like, such as Florida. That puts my worst-case scenario in a whole new perspective now, doesn’t it? (Although, believe me, I’m perfectly happy staying where I am until my retirement.)
I generally wouldn’t share a story like this on my happy-go-lucky blog. But I want you to know, if you ever find yourself getting sucked into a vortex of worry like I was this past week, things will get better. You may not get over an obstacle, but you may go around it by looking at it from another perspective.
Sculpture of Papa Hemingway
On tap for March is…
Once Upon a Time Update
Ernest Hemingway’s Key West Years
Key West Guest Blogger Travel Post
Contemporary Romance Reviews
Another Wednesday Romance Writer installment
Until then, I leave you with Kelly Clarkson’s latest anthem.
How do you handle financial stresses or worries about job security?
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